GCSE-ready1st Date: She and 1st Date: He by Wendy Cope: context, form and key methods
Two linked poems give a woman's and a man's private thoughts on the same first date at a classical concert. This poem is in copyright, so it is described mainly in our own words.
Context and Cope's purpose
The poems gently mock the nerves, pretending and misunderstandings of a first date, and show how little we know about what someone else is thinking.
Form and structure
They are written in short quatrains with rhyme on the second and fourth lines, giving a light, conversational rhythm. The man's poem is longer than the woman's.
Neither person speaks to the other; we only hear their private thoughts.
Language and key methods
Conversational, self-conscious language: each speaker worries about how they look and what to say, which creates gentle humour.
Mirroring: matching ideas in the two poems show how alike they are, even though each feels alone and unsure.
Compare how the early stages of love are presented in 1st Date and one other poem from Relationships.
- Both poems show the hopes of new love.
- Cope's paired monologues and dramatic irony; Byron's idealised description.
- AO3: modern dating; Byron admiring a woman at a party in 1814.
Answer: Both Cope and Byron show a person fascinated by someone they have only just met, but their tones are very different. Byron idealises the woman he sees, comparing her to "the night / Of cloudless climes and starry skies", which makes her seem perfect and almost untouchable. Cope's speakers are far more anxious and human: the woman decides her date is "totally into this music", while the reader knows from his poem that he is thinking about her. Cope's dramatic irony creates humour that Byron's admiring sestets avoid. Byron presents early love as calm worship; Cope presents it as awkward, hopeful and full of misunderstanding.
Wendy Cope, 2011; witty light verse. Paired interior monologues; quatrains with rhyme on lines 2 and 4; mirroring; dramatic irony (she thinks he loves the music; he is thinking about her); gentle humour.
- Context
- The circumstances in which a text was written and set, such as historical events, social attitudes and the writer's life (AO3 in the GCSE, AO4 in the International GCSE).
- Form
- The type and shape of a text: for example sonnet, ballad, free verse, tragedy, comedy, novel or play.
- Dramatic irony
- When the audience or reader knows something that a character does not.
- Irony
- A contrast between what is said and what is meant, or between what is expected and what happens.
- Monologue
- A long speech by one character.
- Speaker
- The voice of a poem. The speaker is not always the poet.
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